By Elizabeth Onyango and Sarafina Kimotho

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Day 6 of 16 Days Of Activism 2021 we focus on FEMICIDE

Femicide – the killing of women and girls – is the most extreme form of violence on a continuum of violence and discrimination against women and girls. Various typologies of femicide have been proposed by researchers in the past several decades with most distinguishing ‘intimate femicide’ from various other types of femicide (e.g. familial femicide and stranger femicide). These two broad categories of femicide are defined below.

Intimate femicide also referred to as intimate partner femicide, captures the killing of women by current or former partners. Globally, women are much more likely than men to be assaulted, raped or killed by a current or former partner and it most often occurs within relationships where there is a history of intimate partner violence.

Non-intimate femicide involves the killing of women by someone with whom they did not share an intimate partner relationship, encompassing a broad range of femicide subtypes such as familial femicide, ‘other known perpetrator’ femicide and stranger femicide.

2021 marks the 30th anniversary of the Global 16 Days Campaign. Inspired by the original vision and history of the Campaign, which focused on raising awareness about violence against women (VAW), and considering the continuing impunity for femicide, this year the Campaign is focusing on the issue of “femicide or the gender-related killing of women.” Today, we give attention to some of the most recent femicide cases in Kenya.

A famous English quote says, ‘there’s no place like home’; such a beautiful and powerful phrase, home is supposed to be a peaceful safe haven for women and girls, But is home really safe?

How many women have turned up murdered in their own homes? Stories of young girls raped and butchered because of their sexuality and gender identity, old women torched to death for being suspected of witchcraft, our mothers’ blood calling and crying woooi woooi, I only wanted to stay for my children😢

We call everyone to action, telling her to leave that man or leave that house is not enough, We call everyone to mention their names, shout their names

1. IVY – hacked to death by a man she turned down
2. ERICA – Brutally murdered for being herself
3. TIROP – found dead in bed with multiple wounds.
4. CYNTHIA – 17-year-old, raped, killed and dumped in a river

If the victims could speak up today, We wonder what will they say?

My killer wasn’t some crazy stranger or a masked-up psychopath, it was my companion and my partner, one who knew me intimately.

Tirop

They killed my dreams, my ambitions and aspirations in life, they denied me a chance for my wings to grow and fly, even before I started my light was deemed.

Erica

The threat of a violent death of a woman is indeed great in her own home. It is there where she was the least safe from harm.

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By Henry Ominde.

You can connect with him on; Facebook Page: @WholenessEffect, Twitter: @wholenesseffect and Instagram: @h.ominde

THE WHOLENESS EFFECT

Flesh, blood, bones, DNA, a pulse and a brain clearly don’t make us human. Atleast not in my opinion.

Does humanity exist? Or is it just a vision dreamt by those long departed.

Sometimes, I wake up and try to be human. I try to empathise, love and be kind only to realize that no one gives this back to me. Are they even supposed to justify my humanity? Why do I give them such power?

Society doesn’t allow me to say this outloud. I am not allowed to say that I feel drained by my family, job neighbours, friends. No! If I dare to even think that way, then I am a selfish being. But then who gets to share my experience? Is it not I?

They once told me to cry in private and smile in public. That will make me strong they said. Pretty stupid right?

They also said to cheerfully give without expecting to receive. Mmmmhhhh!!! So I guess the emptiness inside me will automatically regenerate while I freely give the emptiness, right?

Is this what it means to be human? Suffering in silence , allowing others to drain you, have no freedom and yet navigating through life trying to seek understanding of what it’s all about?

Honestly, I really don’t care whether or not you can relate to this but please do something human for yourself.

Please love yourself enough to give yourself the best. Love yourself enough not to put up with the rest but find those that appreciate your radiant glory and expression.

Being human isn’t about being born with a certain genetic construct. It’s about learning to love yourself and being kind on yourself. It’s about understanding your mind, it’s flaws and strengths.

It’s about being unto others what you are to yourself not because they need it , not because you are obliged to be that way but because that’s just who you are.

Being human isn’t being pressured to compromise on your wellbeing for the sake of others. I mean, I am my own person.

“I am human, nothing under the sun is new to me. Nothing seen or unseen suprises me. I am capable of anything and everything. Feeling as I do right now is Something Human. “

#TheWholenessEffect

#SomethingHuman.

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By Henry Ominde.

You can connect with him on; Facebook Page: @WholenessEffect, Twitter: @wholenesseffect and Instagram: @h.ominde

THE WHOLENESS EFFECT

You’d think that those that you hold dear and close to you would notice your worth. That they’d appreciate who you are and regularly affirm just how precious you are and show you nothing less than support. You’d expect that they would help you walk in the right path so that eventually you would become the best you – you in your fullest potential. But then that not always the case.

Sometimes those very same people will crush you. Do everything possible to make you feel that you are nothing and that in order to succeed in this life you need to live under their mercy.

Still can’t relate to this?

Well, let’s then look at the statistics. Numerous studies suggest that lots of perpetuaters are people that are known to the victim. This isn’t just rape and physical violence. Its also psychological torture, exploitation and blackmail.

Truly not everyone that we hold dear to us thinks that we are worth the tender love and care that we actually are. Even when we desperately make a plea for redemption or a cry for help, they mostly turn the other way and label us to be selfish, in need of pity or desperate for attention. Which in my opinion might be valid. ( I know this is a controversial statement. We might explore it on the next post )

In turn, some of us become cold and bitter because we feel betrayed and unloved. Some of us go as far as becoming vengeful while others sink in the bottomless pool of depression and ultimately become addicts or suicidal.

But even then, no one still seems to come through.

At 27 years old, I have lived most of my life expecting people to come through. Desperate that someone would listen to my story, feel my pain and help me appreciate my worth and most of the time what I got was the total opposite. I mean everyone sees what’s happening to you but no one bothers to find out what happened to you to get you to that messy place. No one seems to see the other person’s worth because most of us don’t even realise our own worth.

All of us are blinded by the need to succeed, have material things, get noticed, prove that we are worthy rather than simply notice our worth and appreciate ourselves for what we are worth.

I say, if you only knew what you are worth then you would easily say no. No to anyone that diminished you, no to selfish ambition and greed, no to people that had you live under their mercy, no to circumstances that make you uncomfortable, no to anything and everyone that holds you back. Then gracefully walk away.

I believe that the choice is simply yours to make. You can easily decide to be a victim or a victor.

I recently called myself to a meeting where my body, mind and soul all agreed that I needed to make a change. I needed to let go of everything and everyone that was holding me from noticing my value. I decided to love myself so much that I can now say no to anything and anyone that makes me less than my actual worth.

You see, I know what happened to me. I know what I’ve had to deal with, the battles I’ve fought and continue to fight, the pain and heartache I’ve experienced and what I am capable of.

I know that I am a child of God and nothing about me is flawed.

Hahaha! I know what you are thinking. He thinks he’s perfect, right?

Well, yes. Yes I am. I am a perfect Masterpiece. A work of art that took time to be created. My presence is key on this earth. I am here to pave ways and open doors, to teach from my experiences. My existence is not a mistake. I am here to overcome every obstacle. I am here to say no to whatever tries to alter my creators assignment for me.

You see what happened to you isn’t who you are. You are who you become after that experience. And men, human beings and people have nothing to do with it. They don’t determine who you are, so stop letting them.

Stop expecting people to be what you want them to be. This doesn’tmake you any better. Once you’ve realised who you really are and walk in your splendour and in the glory of your creator – well, then and only then will you realise your life’s worth.

In all the negativity that exists. In all the pain and heartaches you’ve lived. In all the tears and tragedy you’ve experienced. In all the goodbyes and ‘f’ you’s that have been told to you. In all the weight and burdens that you are struggling to lay down. Always remember that you my beloved are enough and nothing should compromise on your life’s worth.

#TheWholenessEffect

#ALife’sWorth

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By Henry Ominde.

You can connect with him on; Facebook Page: @WholenessEffect, Twitter: @wholenesseffect and Instagram: @h.ominde

THE WHOLENESS EFFECT

Sometimes we get to that place where we feel too comfortable. That place where everything seems to be working perfectly. Every step looks right. Every feedback received is nothing less than positive. Well this place seems to be the destination of a journey.

We immediately start giving thanks to God. We thank the universe for the opportunity and even begin sharing our testimonies. We look back on the dirty road, that road of hardships, torment, disappointment, sleepless nights, hard work and sometimes pain and if seems like we are at that table. The table whereby we get to feast before our enemies. The Comfort Table.

We reach for the expensive china and begin to serve. Some of us, well let’s just say have an appetite while others are watching their weight. As we pick up the silver ware, the mood is modest and everyone looks ravished and delighted. A few minutes into the meal we engage in conversations. Some take part in it while others as they say, dig in.

A happy moment, a picture perfect moment it is. But wait. So one of us at the comfort table drops their cutlery and we all turn to look at them. Some of us are irritated by the sound it makes as it bounces on the floor. Others try to help them pick it up. Some do so while making fun of them. Another genuinely empathises with the incident while some look at them as an embarrassment, as an individual that is undeserving to be on the comfort table.

This is followed by an abrupt moment of silence that ushers in a shift in the mood and brew of opinions begin to form.

“Dont they have etiquette? Who drops their cutlery? Why would I help them pick it up? The food is so tasty. Poor them! They dont know how to use cutlery. It could happen to anyone.” These are some of the thoughts and opinions. Some were said out loud while some remain hidden but in reality a perfect moment was brought back to reality by nature’s force of gravity.

Well, what am I trying to say. It’s simple. You see being comfortable is something that we all strive to attain. And it means different thing to us as we are all unique. But then reality will always keep us in check. Reality will remind us that nothing is ever perfect. That comfort is attainable but reality still remains. I mean think of that moment when the silverware slips to the ground while you are caught up enjoying your victory meal. What would that be like for you if you were one that had dropped the cutlery?

Would you be ashamed? Would you politely ask for a new set? Would you demand for a new set? Would you use your hands to eat and simply enjoy the meal? Would you excuse yourself? I mean what would you do?

I have learnt that being comfortable is something that we all work hard to attain. Attaining it does bring us together but at the same time we still remain to be different individuals dinning on the same comfort table. Our responses and reactions will always vary.

I’ll let you think through this vividly and allow you to interpret the incident in your own unique way. But all I can share from my thoughts is, regardless of how things may seem, feel or be at the Comfort Table, always be grateful and hold on to your seat. You deserve to be seated on it.

#COMFORT TABLE

#THEWHOLENESSEFFECT

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Job Title	Accounts Assistant
Reports to	Head of Finance and Administration
Direct Reports	Head of Finance
Location	Mombasa – Kenya

ABOUT PEMA KENYA

Pema Kenya is a membership-based organisation founded in 2008 whose work is premised upon creating an enabling environment for its members and the general population to thrive. We are a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer (LGBTIQ)-led organisation that works with LGBTIQ individuals and communities as well as stakeholders seeking to bridge the gap that exists between the general population and gender and sexual minorities (GSM).

For more information about us, visit our website; https://pemakenya.org/

1. Job Summary:

The job is responsible for daily control of payments, receipts and computerized accounts input.

• Key Responsibilities:
• Preparation of cheque and cash payment vouchers, taking them for authority to pay and   issuing out cheques.
• Procurement of standard items and consumables for the project office.
• Handling all project daily cash transactions and keeping petty cash float.
• Maintenance of stores ledger
• Maintenance of capital (asset) items inventory
• Post transactions into ledgers
• Processing of payroll for the staff.
• Help in the preparation of financial reports
• Handle payments of statutory and other payroll deductions
• Undertake banking duties and collecting funds for the organization.
• Support in the handling insurance matters. 
• Data entry for bank reconciliation statements in the accounting software.
• Any other duty allocated by the management from time to time.

• Knowledge, Skills and Abilities:

(The knowledge, skills and abilities may be required through a combination of formal schooling, self-education and prior experience or on-the-job-training).

• Level of Education

Bachelor’s degree in any of the following areas: Accounting, Finance, Business, or any related field. 

• Specialized Training/Professional Qualifications

CPA Part II.

• Competencies/Abilities/Skills Required
• Working knowledge of computerized accounting and other computer application packages
• High level of integrity to be able to handle assets, cash and cash related transactions.
• Good interpersonal skills to be able to relate to people of diverse backgrounds.
• Attention to detail to be able to scrutinize payment supporting documents before effecting payment.
• Effective communication both oral and written
• Good organizing skills
• Relevant Job Experience
• At least two (2) years’ experience in a busy accounts office (preferably an NGO).
• At least two (2) years on Human Rights and Sexual and Gender Diversity
• Position Relationships:

Within the Organization	Outside the Organization
All Staff	SuppliersBanksInsurersGovernment and other Agencies

• Authority/Decision Making :

The job is performed in accordance with standard procedures and guidance with occasional need for independent decision. The job provides responsibility for payment vouchers, petty cash safe and pension returns.

• Working Conditions:

The job is conducted both in an office setting with frequent visits to the bank and other        government offices.  The work performed presents limited exposure to job related hazards.

• Acknowledgment & receipt by the incumbent:

I acknowledge that I have received, read and sought clarification of any questions I have about the content of this job description.

*Last page to be printed and signed;

	Name	Signature	Date
Employee:
Supervisor:

APPLICATION PROCEDURE

To apply for this position, print and sign this last page, attach your CV, Motivational letter and credentials to info@pemakenya.org and copy cduncan@pemakenya.org with the subject “Accounts Assistant” by 15^th August 2021.

Pema Kenya is an equal opportunity employer irrespective of age, ethnicity, race, gender identity, sexual orientation, HIV status or physical capabilities.

Persons who identify as LGBTIQ and / or persons with disability are encouraged to apply.

Only shortlisted candidates will be contacted. Canvassing will lead to automatic disqualification

Job Title	Program Officer -Health
Reports to	Head of Programs
Direct Reports	Program Assistant -Health
Location
Mombasa – Kenya

ABOUT PEMA KENYA

Pema Kenya is a membership-based organisation founded in 2008 whose work is premised upon creating an enabling environment for its members and the general population to thrive. We are a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer (LGBTIQ)-led organisation that works with LGBTIQ individuals and communities as well as stakeholders seeking to bridge the gap that exists between the general population and gender and sexual minorities (GSM).

For more information about us, visit our website; https://pemakenya.org/

1. Job Summary:

The position is responsible for facilitating efficient and effective implementation of programs and projects under the Health function in accordance with PEMA-K’s strategic focus on health. The incumbent is responsible for providing technical support to all the Health Programs to ensure that health services offered to target communities follow the national guidelines within the local context and the aspirations and needs of the LGBTI persons.

The position forms part of the core implementation team responsible for implementation of projects strategies, routine support supervision, and health and SRH quality assessment. The holder of this position will promote an integrated approach to sustainable health service delivery to targeted populations and will network closely with partners in the health sector to develop work plans, prepare periodic reports, hold technical meetings and work closely with other program officers in ensuring that health project targets are met.

The position will collaborate with the CHMT team members to advance PEMA-K’s desire to integrate and mainstream key health indicators in the implementation processes of all health programs.

• Key Responsibilities:
• Management of Programs/Projects
• Work closely with the Senior Programs Officer in developing implementation activities for supervised programs/projects.
• Spearhead advocacy for improved access to health services in the target communities.
• Spearhead increased access to safe sex commodities to LGBT persons.
• Manage preventive and curative health services, and support referral in the target communities.
• Facilitate awareness creation and promotion of reproductive health services in the target LGBTI communities.
• Facilitate HIV and AIDS prevention, care and support activities in the target communities.
• Establish awareness creation programs to promote harm reduction in persons abusing drugs and substances in the target communities.
• Facilitate establishment of mental health initiatives in PEMA-K.   
• Play lead role in managing relationships with target beneficiaries, communities and other key stakeholders on health and SRH initiatives.
• Facilitate needs assessments and other surveys within the programs/projects and provide appropriate technical support. 
• Ensure effective monitoring and evaluation of supervised projects and use outcomes to inform the implementation process.
• Ensure timely and quality reporting in line with guidelines for respective programs and projects.
• Synthesize lessons and experiences for continuous improvement of health, and SRH interventions within PEMA-K and affiliates, and for sharing both within the organization and externally.
•    Resource and Financial Management
• Guide partner organizations in preparation of plans and budgets for implementation of health and SRHR activities.
• Work closely with the Finance and Administration Department to ensure that funds for health intervention projects are efficiently utilized.
•    Networking and Collaboration
• Strengthen linkages with other CSOs, relevant government departments and agencies, and community organizations in the project areas for better referral networks and coordination on health and SRHR activities.
• Participate in Development and Technical working Committees within the jurisdiction or as designated by the management.
• Represent the organization in relevant forums and meetings.  
• Maintain good public relations, networking and collaboration with other like-minded organizations.
•     Other Duties and Responsibilities
• Participate in Institutional strengthening processes both at PEMA-K and affiliate levels
• Actively contribute towards M&E processes for continuous learning, reporting and profiling of PEMA-K
• Carry out any other duties and responsibilities which may be assigned by the management from time to time.
• Knowledge, Skills and Abilities:

(The knowledge, skills and abilities may be required through a combination of formal schooling, self-education and prior experience or on-the-job-training).

• Level of education:

Bachelor’s degree in Public Health or any related fields.   

• Specialized Training/Professional Qualifications

Training in project management is essential.

• Other competencies:
• Strong leadership skills.
• Strong community mobilization skills.
• Strong team orientation. 
• Strong communications skills
• Job experience:
• At least three (3) years in a similar position.
• At least two (2) years on Human Rights and Sexual and Gender Diversity

Position Relationships:

Within the Organization	Outside the Organization
Members of the Board and Committees of the Board.  Management TeamStaff	Program Managers of peer organizations operating in the region.Cluster/member groups.Government officers.Key service providers, especially SRH.

• Authority/Decision Making:

The position involves making recommendation on policies to the Program Team and Senior Management Team on health and SRHR related issues for their consideration and approval.

• Working Conditions

The position requires frequent field travels at times may be to remote and hardship areas. It periodically requires the incumbent to work long and odd hours when necessary to meet deadlines or respond to specific situations. 

• Acknowledgment & receipt by the incumbent

I acknowledge that I have received, read and sought clarification of any questions I have about the contents of this job description.

*Last page to be printed and signed;

	Name	Signature	Date
Employee:
Supervisor:

APPLICATION PROCEDURE

To apply for this position, print and sign this last page, attach your CV, Motivational letter and credentials to info@pemakenya.org and copy cduncan@pemakenya.org with the subject “Health Promotion Officer” by 15^th August 2021.

Pema Kenya is an equal opportunity employer irrespective of age, ethnicity, race, gender identity, sexual orientation, HIV status or physical capabilities.

Persons who identify as LGBTIQ and / or persons with disability are encouraged to apply. Only shortlisted candidates will be contacted. Canvassing will lead to automatic disqualification

June is Pride Month, when the world’s LGBT communities come together and celebrate the freedom to be themselves. Pride gatherings are rooted in the arduous history of minority groups who have struggled for decades to overcome prejudice and be accepted for who they are.

The original organizers chose this month to pay homage to the Stonewall uprising in June 1969 in New York City, which helped spark the modern gay rights movement. Most Pride events take place each year in June, although some cities hold their celebrations at other times of the year. Most in-person 2020 Pride events were canceled because of the pandemic. But parades and other Pride celebrations are returning this month to New York, Paris and many other cities.

Who celebrates it?

Pride events are geared toward anyone who feels like their sexual identity falls outside the mainstream — although many straight people join in, too.

LGBT is an acronym meaning lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender. The term sometimes is extended to LGBTQ, or even LGBTQIA, to include queer, intersex and asexual groups. Queer is an umbrella term for non-straight people; intersex refers to those whose sex is not clearly defined because of genetic, hormonal or biological differences; and asexual describes those who don’t experience sexual attraction.

These terms may also include gender fluid people, or those whose gender identity shifts over time or depending on the situation.

How did it start?

In the early hours of June 28, 1969, police raided the Stonewall Inn, a gay bar in New York’s Greenwich Village, and began hauling customers outside. Tensions quickly escalated as patrons resisted arrest and a growing crowd of bystanders threw bottles and coins at the officers. New York’s gay community, fed up after years of harassment by authorities, erupted in neighborhood riots that went on for three days.

The uprising became a catalyst for an emerging gay rights movement as organizations such as the Gay Liberation Front and the Gay Activists Alliance were formed, modeled after the civil rights movement and the women’s rights movement. Members held protests, met with political leaders and interrupted public meetings to hold those leaders accountable. A year after the Stonewall riots, the nation’s first Gay Pride marches were held.

In 2016 the area around the Stonewall Inn, still a popular nightspot today, was designated a national monument.

Where did the Pride name come from?

It’s credited to Brenda Howard, a bisexual New York activist nicknamed the “Mother of Pride,” who organized the first Pride parade to commemorate the one-year anniversary of the Stonewall uprising.

What’s the origin of the rainbow flag?

In 1978, artist and designer Gilbert Baker was commissioned by San Francisco city supervisor Harvey Milk — one of the first openly gay elected officials in the US — to make a flag for the city’s upcoming Pride celebrations. Baker, a prominent gay rights activist, gave a nod to the stripes of the American flag but drew inspiration from the rainbow to reflect the many groups within the gay community.

A subset of flags represent other sexualities on the spectrum, such as bisexual, pansexual and asexual.

Can I participate in Pride events if I’m not LGBT?

Sure. Pride events welcome allies from outside the LGBT community. They are opportunities to show support, to observe, listen and be educated.

PRIDE MONTH TIMELINE

This year, in line with the IDAHOBIT theme, we stand “Together: Resisting, Supporting, Healing!” – a powerful message as we continue to overcome the COVID-19 pandemic, which has increased the vulnerability of LGBTIQ+ persons. COVID-19 has exposed existing gaps of equality and exacerbated existing vulnerabilities, including bias and social stigma, discrimination, economic impact, the risk of violence and domestic parental violence, and it has reduced access to gender-affirming health services.

Pema Kenya will continue to shed light on these and other injustices, and will continue advocating for everyone, regardless of who they are or whom they love, to be protected and included in the global response to the pandemic. We hope that you will join our efforts, throughout the year, to make the coastal region and Kenya at large a more inclusive community for all. We must stand united in celebrating diversity and the resilience of the LGBTQI+ community and in defending human rights, inclusiveness and justice.

As we commemorate IDAHOBIT 2021, I would also like to take send our heartfelt condolences to the family, friends and colleagues of Joash Mosoti (Advocacy officer – HAPA KENYA) and Badi Twii who are both Pema Kenya members. We condemn the brutal murder of Joash and put our trust in the investigative and law enforcement agencies to bring the perpetrators into book. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. We will remember to hold tight to both of your memories.
They will be with us forever!

By Catherine Kariuki, Pema Kenya Chairperson (2021-2023)

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By Henry Ominde.

You can connect with him on; Facebook Page: @WholenessEffect, Twitter: @wholenesseffect and Instagram: @h.ominde

THE WHOLENESS EFFECT

I am afraid of what my words can do. I understand that they are capable of so many things. I know that truly they can give and take away life from everything. They can build and destroy.

My words are both a weapon and a cause for celebration. My words can turn worlds apart and bring them together.

Truth is I’ve never really known how to use them. Does anyone really know how to use them? Does anyone really understand what words can do?

We speak them to express ourselves. We write them to store our expressions. We sometimes hide them due to the fear of what they may bring.

Words cant be undone. Neither can they be unsaid. No word is meaningless, no word is plain.

Words are powerful on so many levels. What you tell yourself and others always ends up creating an impact. Everything you communicate both verbally and none verbally is an expression of something in our minds. A portrayal of how we think, feel and what we believe.

Over the years, I have come to understand that my words have shaped my relationships; with my family, friends, colleagues and lovers. I have been mean, I have been kind, I have been insensitive, I have been sensitive, I have been brave, I have been offensive, I have been ignorant, I have been wise, I have been accepting and also unwelcoming all through my words.

I would say that their more to our words than we can phathom.

When one keeps track of their words then they would realise that none of us is innocent and none is guilty. Keeping track our words will reveal that you are as imperfect as your rival.

So mark my words when I say that words are life. They can work both for you and against you. So purpose to use them wisely at all times. But you probably already know this. Ha ha!

#TheWholenessEffect

#MarkMyWords.

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